Personal Stories: Pamela Myer's Family
Brian, It is very hard to read these stories because I
have lost my husband and my daughter within six years. My story starts
when my husband had his first heart attack at 38 yrs. old. It was a mild
one not much damage to his heart. His family has a history of heart.
He had his second heart attack at 43 yrs. and again not much damage
but 2 stents put in. He was told if he had anymore problems he would
probably have to have open heart. He never made it that far. We were
married for 29 yrs. and he went to Arizona for a Zane Grey Convention to
relax from a lot of stress with work in June of 2003. I had to stay home
that year and it was the only time we weren't together. He was in a
hotel lobby with friends and I was told that he stood up from the couch
to leave the hotel for a party and took one step and went down.
There were two retired doctors at the convention who just happened to
be right there but he didn't make it. Since he had previous heart
problems they didn't do an autopsy. Oh how I wish I would have requested
it now. On October 9, 2009 my 30 year old daughter who was 38 wks
pregnant called me at work and hour before she died. I work at a
hospital. She was crying and I could tell she was scared in her voice.
She had took a shower and laid down on the bed and stretched and felt
like she had pulled a muscle in her neck. She said it felt something
like a pulled muscle but different. She was really scared about the H1N1
and was hoping to get the shot before she had the baby.
Her husband said she was on the computer looking up the symptoms
right before she left the house. She had asthma and I asked her if she
was having trouble breathing? She said she was and had taken her
inhaler. She said it had helped a little. I told her to go to the ER if
she felt like she should. She said no that she had called our family
doctor and had an appointment at 1:20 p.m.. I told her I would call her
back in about 15 mins. to see how she was doing. I got busy at work and
never got to talk to her again. I looked up at the clock and it was 1:15
p.m.. I knew she was probably already there at the doctors office. Ten
minutes later my son-in-law called me at work and said he got a call
from the doctors office that she had fainted and they were taking her to
the hospital. I started to cry because I had the same strange feeling in
my heart that I had when they called me and said her father went down.
They took her to our other hospital campus about 10 mins. away. I was
out the door crying and made it to the hospital before the ambulance got
there. They were doing CPR on her and it is a painful picture of my
daughter that I will never be able to erase from my memory. I just had
to be there with her because I should have been with my husband. They
were able to save my beautiful granddaughter and she spent two weeks at
Children's hospital and is just perfect.
No brain damage....they kept up CPR for her baby even though they
knew my daughter was gone. The not knowing what happened to this
beautiful healthy pregnant woman was so frightening. Was it her heart?
What could have caused her death? The next day we got a preliminary
autopsy report. A small tear in the ascending aorta. An aortic
dissection. My family doctor feels that my husband died from this also.
We will never know for sure about my husband but we do know about my
daughter. Since then my 29 yr.old son has been checked and his children
are being checked. He checked out ok for now. He will have to be checked
every 3 to 5 years. My husband's sister and her children are also being
My daughter's children will be checked at age five or six. The "what
ifs" are hard not to think about. What if I would have ordered an
autopsy on my husband. It could have saved my daughter. This thing must
be able to take people fast. My daughter saved her child. She didn't
wait for her husband and four yr.old son to take her to the doctor. She
left the house without saying goodbye and if she hadn't we would have
lost the baby too or worse she would have died in front of them in the
car if she would have waited for them even to get in the car. If she
would have went to the hospital it was further than the doctor's office
and we would have lost them both and she could have hurt someone in a
car wreck. My doctor told me she walked into the office and they took
her right back.
The nurse checked her vitals including blood pressure and everything
was fine. They were laughing about how she looked like she was ready to
have that baby and she reached for the nurse and said there was that
funny feeling in her neck again and she died. Maybe the doctors should
do an autopsy on every heart patient especially when they have already
had a history of heart. It could of saved my beautiful daughter. I have
read online the percentage of woman under forty that die from AD and are
pregnant with there first child or second.
The percentage is high. I to got on line and started reading about AD
and it scared me so much I had to quit reading anything about it until I
talked to my doctor so he could explain some things to me. I has so
scared for my son that I was going to lose him next. I just wanted to
share my story of my husband and daughter so that maybe this will help
save someone else. I want to show you pictures of them and my
granddaughter but I can't get them to copy on here. Thanks for letting
me tell you my story.
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